Here at Size HH, we are all about finding ways to stay positive and keep our mind and body happy & healthy. Part of this is saying yes to opportunities or challenges that may be outside of your comfort zone, but would really boost your inner confidence if you ‘felt the fear and did it anyway’. Yes is a powerful word and it can bring many benefits, but if you have read the book you will know we are also all about balance. So, that leads us to the word no and sometimes we find this a lot harder than saying yes.
Many of us want to please others and we think we have to say yes in order to keep others happy. Where does this leave us though? Has saying yes ever left you feeling drained because you now have to do something you really don’t want to? Have you ever had to make up an excuse to cancel the very thing you said yes to?
One of the most important things we can do for our wellbeing is give ourselves enough time for self-care. That means different things to different people. For some of us self-care means getting our hair done, doing yoga, taking 20 minutes to read a magazine in peace. For others it may be the chance to enjoy a cuppa or hot bath without disturbance. Whatever we class as self-care, we all need it and regularly if we want to keep our mind and body healthy.
Saying yes to everything, because we believe it will make others happy, can leave you with no time or energy for yourself. This will make it harder for you to be able to say yes to the things you really want to be doing, giving resentment an open invite…
Of course we want to help our family and friends out whenever we can, but we can’t do that half as well unless we take good care of ourselves too. So how do we say no to some things without hurting others feelings, seeming selfish, or letting others down?
I wanted to know the exact same thing, so when Jane Travis, our female psychotherapist from the book introduced me to a new course she was running ‘How To Say No Without feeling guilty or changing your mind’, I had to check it out to see how I could use some of the tips in my own life to gain back some time and balance.
The course was delivered straight to my inbox every morning so I began each day with the tips from each email. It actually opened my eyes to many things, one of which was how to say no without bluntly saying no, or even without using the word no. It even gave suggestions for when you want to say no but need a polite way to do so. It was like a slice of freedom in my inbox and by the end of the course I was loaded with confidence and ways to say no without hurting anyone, when I have good reason to of course.
For any parents that struggle to say no to their children (however old), or for those of you that relentlessly care for others but find yourself struggling to care for yourself, or for anyone that says yes to plans that they know they don’t want to do, this course was made for you. It will give you some time back in your life, more respect for your self worth and the ability to say no without feeling guilty or changing your mind, just as the course says.
I won’t give away any more but Jane is incredibly knowledgeable and experienced in all things psychology and body image (that’s why we also chose her to help with the Size HH project), so it’s well worth checking out her website to see how she could help you in other ways too. If you do want to have a go at the How To Say No course too, it is ready and available to start now. Exciting!
I wish you all the best in your ‘yes/no’ endeavors and hope you can find a balance that’s just right for you.